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Episode 75

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10th Apr 2024

Breaking the Cycle of Sexual Avoidance w/ Katie Ziskind

Episode75: Breaking the Cycle of Sexual Avoidance w/ Katie Ziskind


Today my special guest is Katie Ziskind.

Katie specializes in coaching disconnected couples who want to stay together and want to work together after high conflict fights, anger issues, affairs, sexual avoidance, and sexual rejection to develop a foundation of emotional connection, trust, and love. She supports couples who struggle with infidelity and need an affair recovery specialist that takes them through specific steps to attune to each other. Intimacy is all about being emotionally vulnerable to build a closer relationship. We don’t learn emotional expression skills growing up.

She says, "I help couples grow together through life transitions and stressors like infertility, becoming new parents, having a child with special needs, loss and grief, dealing with chronic pain, alcoholism, becoming empty nesters, and do so while reducing criticism, hurt, and conflict. I help couples feel safe and excited emotionally and build a strong bond, and grow together. I help couples gain sex positive skills to understand foreplay, sexual pleasure, rebuild sexual desire, connect to their sexual, erotic playful side. I give you a safe place to talk about how your strict, conservative, religious upbringing has lead to feelings of shame, guilt, fear, avoidance, lack of satisfaction, and anxiety around sex and shift into reconnecting to sexual pleasure. I help couples get familiar and comfortable talking about emotions, needs, expectations emotionally and gain sex positive education. I have a podcast available on Apple Podcasts and Spotify called, “All Things Love and Intimacy.” I am Gottman level 2 trained, Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional (CSTIP), and couples specialist."

Today we discuss the difference between male and female arousal tendencies. Did you know that female bodies need 45 - 90 min of foreplay for full arousal while male bodies need only 4 - 8 minutes to reach full engorgement? Well, most people are not aware of this.

This week we have a conversation about spontanious versus responsive arousal and sex drives. Sexual avoidance happens when there is a mismatch in sex drives and a lack of emotional intimacy. How to we end the cycle of Sexual Avoidance and to bring back Sexual Intimacy? Well, we need a balance between emoational intimacy and physical intimacy.

It's so important to create safety in a relationship and today we give you some strategies that can help bring back that spark.

If you would like to get in contact with Katie Ziskind, you can use the links below:


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Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast
The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast
Learning how to Break Free from religious and social programming to truly live a life of authenticity and pleasure. We look at how shifting our mindset about Sex and Sexuality can radically change our relationships and allow them to be more fun, honest, safe, connected, ethical and authentic. We delve into Sex Positivity and what that is while also looking at things like Love Languages, Attachment Styles, and Boundaries to help us Break Free from relationship myths that are keeping us stuck in a world that isn't quite the right fit. We long for true authentic connections and the ability to completely be ourselves. Let's start living!
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Karine Bedard

You've heard, “Sex is wrong! Relationships are supposed to be hard work!”

What you probably didn’t learn is that sex is empowering and that relationships can be free, and fun, and empowered all at the same time! Karine kicks shame and guilt to the curb so that you can live your most authentic life the way that you want to.

She never in her wildest dreams imagined living the Empowered, Sexy, and Authentic life that she lives right now. Discovering Sex Positivity was the catalyst that allowed her to step out and explore a whole new world of possibilities! She is a Bible School Graduate turned Playboy Enthusiast! While studying the “worst of the worst”, she found her people.

Life is not always what we’ve been taught. Karine uses her magnetism, deep love of people and intuition to release her clients from the societal and religious boxes that they have been programmed into. She wants to inspire people to live their truth and discover their often deeply buried sexual desires and bring them to life in a safe and ethical way that empowers them and their relationships.

She is normalizing Ethical Non-Monogamy. She wants couples to step out and discover the beauty and power of true honesty, authenticity, and confidence in relationships. Looking at the world through a Sex Positive lens will absolutely shift how you understand relationships.

She uses her magnetism and transparency to make you feel safe and seen. Her intuition allows her to see exactly what is holding you back in life and her ability to really see you makes you feel accepted and safe with her. Through her openness and vulnerability she is able to transform your fears into joy and excitement. She is the best at bringing you safely into this Sex Positive world without fear or regret. She guides you every step of the way.

She wants more for you than the script you’ve been fed, “Find your soulmate, marry them, and be monogamous forever!” There is so much more than this in life. Step out and finally Break Free!