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Episode 7

Published on:

24th Aug 2022

Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Misconceptions

Episode7: Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Misconceptions


Have you ever wondered what the differences are between Monogamy and Non-Monogamy? Well, today you find out and we also take a look at 8 common misconceptions associated with Ethical or Consensual Non-Monogamy. We also take a look at the History of Monogamy and how it came to be. Are we meant to be monogamous? Is it more natural?

Tune in to find out!

[03:00] Defining Monogamy and Ethical/ Consensual Non-Monogamy:

  • Monogamy: traditionally it was one man and one woman united in a sexual/emotional relationship for life
  • Serial Monogamy: this is more commonly what is practiced now in our culture.  People have emotional/sexual relationships with one person at a time but not necessarily the same person for life
  • Monogamy / Monoamory / Monogamish

[06:10] Four Types of Monogamy:

  1. Sexual
  2. Emotional
  3. Social
  4. Practical

[08:35] History of Monogamy

[10:30] A Brief History of Monogamy from The Maudern

[14:22] What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?

In its most basic form, non-monogamy is any relationship that involves more than two people, where an outside or additional relationship is allowed. However, ethical is a very important qualifier that helps distinguish dynamics for the folks involved. 

“Ethically non-monogamous relationships are ones in which all people involved have negotiated the terms of and enthusiastically consented to non-monogamy, without feeling coerced into it,” explains Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora, NYC-based psychotherapist and sex therapist.

  • [16:11]Swingers / Swinging / Lifestyle / LS
  • [18:11]Open Relationship
  • [19:30]Polyamory
  • [20:35]Solo Poly
  • [20:55]Relationship Anarchy

[22:10]Misconceptions about Consensual Nonmonogamy from Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships

[22:53]Misconception #1: Consensual Nonmonogamy Threatens the Institution of Marriage

[29:53]Misconception #2: Consensually Nonmonogamous People Are at Higher Risk for Contracting STIs

[35:20]Misconception #3: People Who Choose to Be in Alternative Relationships Are Incapable of Intimacy

[42:02]Misconception #4: Cheating and Consensual Nonmonogamy Are Similar

[44:51]Misconception #5: Designer Relationships Perpetuate Male Dominance at the Expense of Women

[49:53]Misconception #6: Monogamy is Better for Children

[53:24]Misconception #7: People in Nonmonogamous Relationships Have a Higher Rate of Separation and Divorce

[57:13]Misconception #8: The End of a Relationship Represents a “Failure”

[1:03:24]Benefits of ENM:

A 2020 study conducted by Western University, York University and the University of Utah actually found that people with consensually non-monogamous connections had increased life satisfaction, relationship quality, and sexual contentment.

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Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast
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Learning how to Break Free from religious and social programming to truly live a life of authenticity and pleasure. We look at how shifting our mindset about Sex and Sexuality can radically change our relationships and allow them to be more fun, honest, safe, connected, ethical and authentic. We delve into Sex Positivity and what that is while also looking at things like Love Languages, Attachment Styles, and Boundaries to help us Break Free from relationship myths that are keeping us stuck in a world that isn't quite the right fit. We long for true authentic connections and the ability to completely be ourselves. Let's start living!
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You've heard, “Sex is wrong! Relationships are supposed to be hard work!”

What you probably didn’t learn is that sex is empowering and that relationships can be free, and fun, and empowered all at the same time! Karine kicks shame and guilt to the curb so that you can live your most authentic life the way that you want to.

She never in her wildest dreams imagined living the Empowered, Sexy, and Authentic life that she lives right now. Discovering Sex Positivity was the catalyst that allowed her to step out and explore a whole new world of possibilities! She is a Bible School Graduate turned Playboy Enthusiast! While studying the “worst of the worst”, she found her people.

Life is not always what we’ve been taught. Karine uses her magnetism, deep love of people and intuition to release her clients from the societal and religious boxes that they have been programmed into. She wants to inspire people to live their truth and discover their often deeply buried sexual desires and bring them to life in a safe and ethical way that empowers them and their relationships.

She is normalizing Ethical Non-Monogamy. She wants couples to step out and discover the beauty and power of true honesty, authenticity, and confidence in relationships. Looking at the world through a Sex Positive lens will absolutely shift how you understand relationships.

She uses her magnetism and transparency to make you feel safe and seen. Her intuition allows her to see exactly what is holding you back in life and her ability to really see you makes you feel accepted and safe with her. Through her openness and vulnerability she is able to transform your fears into joy and excitement. She is the best at bringing you safely into this Sex Positive world without fear or regret. She guides you every step of the way.

She wants more for you than the script you’ve been fed, “Find your soulmate, marry them, and be monogamous forever!” There is so much more than this in life. Step out and finally Break Free!