Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Misconceptions
Episode7: Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Misconceptions
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Have you ever wondered what the differences are between Monogamy and Non-Monogamy? Well, today you find out and we also take a look at 8 common misconceptions associated with Ethical or Consensual Non-Monogamy. We also take a look at the History of Monogamy and how it came to be. Are we meant to be monogamous? Is it more natural?
Tune in to find out!
- Everything You Wanted to Know About Ethical Non-Monogamy – SheKnows
- A brief history of monogamy. | maude
- Glossary of Terms – polyammering
[03:00] Defining Monogamy and Ethical/ Consensual Non-Monogamy:
- Monogamy: traditionally it was one man and one woman united in a sexual/emotional relationship for life
- Serial Monogamy: this is more commonly what is practiced now in our culture. People have emotional/sexual relationships with one person at a time but not necessarily the same person for life
- Monogamy / Monoamory / Monogamish
[06:10] Four Types of Monogamy:
- Sexual
- Emotional
- Social
- Practical
[08:35] History of Monogamy
[10:30] A Brief History of Monogamy from The Maudern
[14:22] What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?
In its most basic form, non-monogamy is any relationship that involves more than two people, where an outside or additional relationship is allowed. However, ethical is a very important qualifier that helps distinguish dynamics for the folks involved.
“Ethically non-monogamous relationships are ones in which all people involved have negotiated the terms of and enthusiastically consented to non-monogamy, without feeling coerced into it,” explains Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora, NYC-based psychotherapist and sex therapist.
- [16:11]Swingers / Swinging / Lifestyle / LS
- [18:11]Open Relationship
- [19:30]Polyamory
- [20:35]Solo Poly
- [20:55]Relationship Anarchy
[22:10]Misconceptions about Consensual Nonmonogamy from Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships
[22:53]Misconception #1: Consensual Nonmonogamy Threatens the Institution of Marriage
[29:53]Misconception #2: Consensually Nonmonogamous People Are at Higher Risk for Contracting STIs
[35:20]Misconception #3: People Who Choose to Be in Alternative Relationships Are Incapable of Intimacy
[42:02]Misconception #4: Cheating and Consensual Nonmonogamy Are Similar
[44:51]Misconception #5: Designer Relationships Perpetuate Male Dominance at the Expense of Women
[49:53]Misconception #6: Monogamy is Better for Children
[53:24]Misconception #7: People in Nonmonogamous Relationships Have a Higher Rate of Separation and Divorce
[57:13]Misconception #8: The End of a Relationship Represents a “Failure”
[1:03:24]Benefits of ENM:
A 2020 study conducted by Western University, York University and the University of Utah actually found that people with consensually non-monogamous connections had increased life satisfaction, relationship quality, and sexual contentment.
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